The Non-love
HEKD is making fun of me because I was making fun of her choice of framed photos in her new house… every one of them a pic of her and her husband. I told her, “We get it – you’re in looooove!” What’s funny is that we then suddenly realized I have not appeared in any framed photos of hers during the entire decade of our friendship. Then we thought back to the condo she lived in for about 6 years and confirmed that there were no framed photos of me on display at that place either. I noted that she did have a framed photo of her friend LC and her husband MC on their wedding day… she used to have a framed photo of her and the tall one… and she has a framed photo of her with another girl she’s friends with (but she says it was a gift from that girl so I can’t be mad at that). The point is, all these people aren’t as important as me and yet I have no presence in her house! HEKD says she is working on a shrine in my honor if it will keep me happy. Well, it’s a start. Next, she will need to be sincere about worshiping it.
Then I was thinking about it some more and I don’t think any of my friends have framed photos of me in their living quarters… unless you count a photo of KDM, AMR and I on prom night in 1995 that is on display at AMR and Bykfam’s house. If I am wrong, please let me know to help ease my mind. But even though my living space has decreased from a 2 BR apt. to just a single room within my parents’ house… I have pics of my friends all over! In fact, you would think I was in love with HEKD with amount of photos I have framed of her… at Vegas, at her wedding, at the cheesecake factory, etc. AMR, RB, Bykfam, JBP, Xtina… they all are there on display so I can look at them lovingly and look forward to the next time I see them. The realization that no one does this for me is frankly devastating. Xtina doesn’t even have my 4th grade picture on display at her desk anymore. :( I’m feelin’ the non-love today. I see how it is.
On a related note… I have two very talented friends. One is a fiend at knitting and the other is a creative artist. Do you think either of them has ever made anything for me? Hellz no! I’ve been very good friends with them for years and watched with sadness as they’ve made project after project for every one else they know and nothing ever for me. What’s up that? Is it crass to complain about not receiving homemade gifts produced from their talents? Probably. Are we close enough friends that they’ll think it’s funny? Likely. Have I been such a good friend that I deserve a homemade gift? You know it’s true. If I dote on my framed photos of my friends as much as I do, just think how much I’d adore your homemade gift! But don’t drop everything and make me something just because I’m sobbing every night at my multiple unrequited loves. I’ll survive. Don’t worry about me. But HEKD, I’m following up with you this weekend to see how the shrine is coming.
omg, i am laughing out loud at this..
i don’t really have pictures that weren’t given to me as a gift up in my house, (’cept cath). but i recently bought a frame that holds a bunch of photos and intend to change that.. i have however hung the print you got me for my bday and look at it lovingly every day, kindred spirit.. i’ve not been very inspired to create anything lately.. maybe i need to go off my meds, i’m too happy.. and i do believe i sent you some mail art… http://rbart.blogspot.com/2006/07/flight-93-history-channel.html
and i’ve tried without avail to give you any of my figure paintings.. i’ve been turned down EVERY time.
r*becca – are you saying that you need to be depressed to create your art? How dramatic of you. :)
Those naked paintings were not made specifically for me so they don’t count. Besides, if you really knew me, you’d know that I am far too modest to put naked people on display. Go ahead and call me uptight, I dare you.
And I knew you were going to mention the mail art! Too funny. That piece of cardboard was on display in my old kitchen with pride, but is now in a tote with all other kitchen items in my parents’ basement. Maybe I will dig it out to remind me that you once loved me. *sigh*
don’t be so uptight, baby!
well if you expect to get some art from becky you better be VERY patient…i gave her a painting to just finish, and 4 months ago and its still not done
LOL! Well, you may or may not have noticed, but aside of my fridge which for awhile had Mike’s cousin’s high school graduation pics posted, (Beth is now 23 and Dan 20), and an 8×11 collage of randoms, I don’t have a lot of pics of people up except for professional pics from my wedding. However, this will change with the “Family and Friends Wall”; a winter 2009 project I’m immensely looking forward to starting, and you most certainly will be featured. I hope that knowing this will help alleviate some of your sadness. Also, I think about my peops all of the time and currently, I’m thinking of you fondly. (:
Weeeeell, you have been a stranger lately….if you would like some of my work, I would be happy to sit down with you and pic out something…..that is if we ever see you again,,,snif snif. I did call you earlier today randomly on my own….I have staring at my little cell phone and have been waiting for your call…I told Laura to eat dinner without me so I could devote time to a conversation with you. I guess I’ll just keep on waiting…..oh, I get it you weren’t talking about me…I must go cry myself to sleep now…goodnight.
M – you should throw some $$ Becky’s way and I bet it will get your painting done!
JBP – Thank you – you certainly alleviated my broken heart. I can’t wait to see the Family and Friends Wall! :)
DS – Last night was not a good night for me but will try calling you tonight or this weekend! I’m sorry you starved to death while waiting for my call! I actually do have pics of yours… “2 daisies” and “shell in the sand”… I forget how I came about them… maybe I took them off flickr? They were part of my “natural wonders” wall in my old bedroom along with G’s photos. When I moved out, I took yours and left his and I know they are somewhere in the basement. I’ll have to look through some things. I need to change up my bedroom decor anyway.
i am not a picture person at all, but you are in my collage picture frames in my hallway (i think at least twice, will confirm this evening). so stop complaining! :-)
if you give me a picture of you, i will proudly display it on my desk at work. ;)
i may only have one pic of you on display, but you are not out-represented by anyone except Rich. and i have several more framed pics in my hutch- just b/c they’re not on display doesn’t mean they don’t count…right? :)